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Give up or give to?
by Father Michael Savelesky, for the Inland Register
(From the Feb. 7, 2008 edition of the Inland Register)
Times haven’t changed. Children still have multiple ways of searching out, devouring and storing up candy. It seems that on every and any occasion they manifest an uncanny knack for squirreling away their little hoard. Candy bulges from pockets, clutters dresser tops, and protrudes from delighted cheeks.
Conscious of dental bills and other health issues, parents may make valiant attempts to control this deluge of sweetness. Candy remains a favorite find, nevertheless, and still is sought after with the same eagerness with which our great-grandparents stampeded the local grocery store after school.
Small wonder, then, that for a good number of us, candy and Lent grew up together. Since Lent was supposed to be a time for suffering and sacrifice, what could be more painful for a child than to give up candy!
Of course, the child-theologian knew that Sundays were not days of sacrifice. So six days of the week were spent squirreling away the sugary stash, merely waiting the Day of the Lord, when sweetness would come to life once again! Moreover, once the tortuous time of Lent had passed, we could go back to our guiltless search for sweets. Much to our delight, nothing had changed during Lent – there was still candy galore to be saved and devoured.
Some of us got rather skillful at saving candy during Lent. (I used to treat the entire neighborhood on Sunday afternoons!) Unfortunately, some of us still practice the skill as adults. Our delights have changed to cigarettes, alcohol, desserts, television, movies, or dancing, but the practice remains fundamentally the same. Giving up these things or activities during Lent seems to give us a sense of doing something sacrificial.
This kind of practice does make us conscious of the Lenten season, but I wonder how much it opens us up to the transforming power of God’s presence. Sacrifice for the sake of sacrifice, or giving up something just for the sake of “doing something for Lent” manifests a less-than-healthy spirituality.
As children we did not know better. Our spiritual formation was short-sighted and perhaps even a little ill-directed. We had not yet learned that God is not impressed with our annual display of self-discipline or our skill at hoarding.
As adults we can do better for Lent. And as adults we also can encourage our children to do better. Enlightened by the Gospel, we have no excuse for remaining stuck in practices which fall short of the new life to which God calls us in a focused way during Lent. Lent is but six weeks out of the rest of any given year in our life. Penance and sacrifice are always to be elements of our spirituality, but Lent gives us an opportunity to concentrate on them not for their own sake, but to make room for God to transform us more clearly into a people of living faith.
For the Christian, sacrifice is a matter of identifying with the sacrifice of Jesus. Although he died a very painful death in crucifixion, the essence of his sacrifice was the giving of himself over to the will of the One whom he addressed in prayer as “Father.” Jesus’ faithfulness led to the cross; his sacrifice of self led to that kind of dying in which true life is found. In imitation of him, Christian sacrifice is a way of living.
Jesus is the model of our Lenten sacrifice. Sacrifice in union with him cannot be equated with doing things or denying activities which have little or nothing to do with true life. Our Lenten sacrifices must find their meaning in becoming more like Jesus in his gift of self. This is what it means to take our cross and follow him. These kinds of Lenten penances are more difficult to identify – and they are far more difficult to practice – but they are the kind of sacrifice which allow God to transform us and bring us new life.
It is easy to save candy during Lent, for example, but it is far more life-producing to spend quality time with the family or friends who have been neglected. It is easy to give up desserts, but new life is more readily found in visiting the sick or shut-ins of the parish. I may conquer the nicotine habit, but improved spiritual health is found in devoting more time to prayer. It may sooth my conscience to give up alcohol for Lent, but God’s face is more readily encountered in taking time to introduce myself and meet people before and after Mass on Sunday.
Is not this shift in perspective the point Jesus was trying to make in the Gospel when he challenged the Pharisees (who were experts in pious practices) to go and learn the meaning of the phrase, “It is mercy I want and not sacrifice”?
God does not want our candy, booze and desserts during Lent. God wants us. And, if God wants us during Lent, the Lord wants us always.
(Father Savelesky is the diocese's Director of Deacon Formation and pastor of Assumption Parish in Spokane.)
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